dimanche 3 novembre 2013

Why women should forgive men when they try to cheat

If serious relationships are hard to make and harder to keep, imagine relationships built on mutual love, it is kind of impossible.
In this not we will suppose that the woman loves her man and he loves her back. If your man doesn’t love you and he cheats or tries to cheat and/or you don’t love him, don’t forgive him! Break up with him and go search for something else.
You may say if a man loves his woman he will never try to cheat on her, not even think about it. Well, in this note I will give you the reasons causing a man to cheat and if you and if you think one of the reasons or more are present in your relationship, you have to forgive him for trying to cheat.
So here are 5 reasons why women should forgive men when they try to cheat:
  •           Sexual or emotional Satisfaction: If you are thinking about preserving your virginity till your marriage, or you think emotional relationships are overrated. Well honey, don’t wait for your man to adapt to your opinion! Especially when it comes to physical intercourses. It is hard, even impossible for a man who tried sex before to stop thinking about it and doing it for a long time. Emotional part is important for the man, when a man is in a mutual love relationship he is usually romantic and he waits for the other half to be the same. Men want to have the same love relationships they see by mistake in movies.
  •           A change is needed: If the relationship gets to the point where you have routine, a change is needed. You can try new things as a couple, do new stuff, enjoy new games, and do new challenges. If you don’t change anything or when he tries to change some stuff you say no, he will start feeling imprisoned. Men tend to get bored easily, do something. If a change doesn’t happen in the relationship, the man will start looking away for stuff to stop the feeling of boredom he has. Cheating is always the best solution.
  •           The heart loves you, other parts not always: A man doesn’t always use his mind and less than that the left part where you have emotions like love. A man rarely thinks, he is always haunted by his physical needs so even if he loves you sometimes he can’t control his body especially when he loses control of his mind by substance or alcohol use. Don’t judge us, we are closer to animals than you think.
  •           Guilt caused by personal reflection: It is something a man usually does after every act he makes, and if your man really loves you, he will, after the act of cheating or even the attempt, feel guilty as hell and think about you more and more. The time he will spend thinking will eat him from inside. However, you need to confront him with his acts, else he will get cocky by thinking he got away with his actions and the feeling of pride and happiness will cover the guilt he feels. Confront him with his actions, that will only leave him with the feeling of guilt and that will torture him enough. Then you can forgive him because he went through a lot.
  •           Ruining beautiful things: If you have something unique and special, if your relationship was so amazing why ruin it? If he is sorry for his actions and he still loves you truly, why fuck up everything and then leave in regret for the rest of your life? We ruin stuff and then regret it. Give a second chance, everybody deserves one even a cheating filthy son of a bitch (sorry for the words, I hate cheaters). Don’t leave in regret, try it again and if it doesn’t work leave him.  It is always better to regret something you did, then something you didn’t.

Men don’t deserve your trust but they do deserve your love. Women aren’t less cheating then men; actually a study has shown that women cheat on serious relationships more than men do. However, if your man loves you and you are not a cheating girlfriend/wife, well talk to him, ask him about it and if he still loves you, give him a second chance, he will be better. Try to enjoy the good thing you have and don’t ruin them for some stupid act done in a stupid moment. Solve your problems together people.

Satisfy your man, and even if you sexually can’t, try to cover it by satisfying him otherwise because you really can make him forget that. He will not forget it, he will pretend he did, and he will make more efforts hide it and control it because you are giving him other stuff to think about. And that’s applicable with all the other needs, not only sexual ones.
                                                                                                           W.H


3 commentaires:

  1. but if woman does same errors and try to cheat, man will never forgive her

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    1. It always depends on the situation!
      As I explained to a friend once, If the woman is looking for sexual satisfaction, I haven't yet met a guy who will tell her: Oh sorry I am preserving myself for marriage :p
      So basically, 3 of the reasons I mentioned aren't applicable when a girl cheats (unless it is about performance, well you need to chose the partner well, else you have to accept what you have :p and this is applicable for men, if they are looking for performance, well choose wisely).
      And I don't really support this idea, but usually women are known to be the loyal and the ones we count on to keep the relationship going so if it is fucked up from the side of the woman, the whole relationship wouldn't work.
      It always depends on the situation, because when women cheat they are not looking for the same stuff the man is looking for and if a man cheats it is most of the time not for a long relationship because men use their hearts less than women but if a woman cheats it is most of the time with feeling and it may cause serious relationship with the guy she cheated with.
      Still all over the world, men are known to be the kind of players and women keepers (which is something I hate by the way, if you are in a relationship you have to be serious and loyal)

      I am not a supporter of cheaters (women or men) but I know a lot of men who forgave women when they cheated (I won't because I don't cheat so I expect the same behavior from my partner).

      I strongly believe we should be more direct with each other and try to make things work... Honesty is a good thing.

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